What is this thing we call "marriage"?
A sexual life covenant between a man and a woman
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A fundamental part of our society, lives and religion is something that is widely referred to as "marriage".
This is the term used in just about all bibles, but there is a problem, the thing that we practice in society that we call "marriage" is, most of the time, NOT what Yah provides for and what is referred to in the bible.
In previous articles I have referred to the covenant nature of this union and the fact that sexual intercourse with a virgin, widow or truly divorced woman IS a covenant act that ushers in a covenant whether we want it or not.
The word marriage, as with so many of the other words that are challenged in my articles is a word that has worldly connotations that are far removed from what Yah intended and therefore to be avoided wherever possible.
If we look for a technical term to replace "marriage" and its associated word forms such as "marry" i suggest that "sexual life covenant between a man and a woman" is a fairly accurate term.
If a woman has a sexual life covenant with a man who is still alive then "divorce" and "remarriage" are only permissible in certain very specific cases of treachery and betrayal including the one party losing all hope of salvation.
Since sexual intercourse with a woman who is eligible for covenant, that is a true virgin, true widow or true divorced woman, IS the covenant act a legal marriage is only valid in these cases where covenant is valid, otherwise "marriage" is legalizing adultery and has no validity in the Court of Heaven. Most legal marriages today fall into this category.
There is NO SUCH THING as "sex before marriage", there is either a covenant sexual act, that is consummation or on-going sexual love making within a covenant relationship or otherwise it is an adulterous act.
You may be offended by including "sexual" in the definition BUT as pointed out previously sexual love making is the ONLY thing that Yah limits to this form of relationship and no other and the ONLY thing that constitutes sin if practiced outside of this form of covenant relationship.
Accordingly, rather than being offended and in the process agreeing with Satan's lies I suggest for your consideration that it is appropriate to be direct and blunt about what we are talking about.
If you are considering marriage and do not regard sexual love making as THE MOST IMPORTANT THING in that relationship then you should consider a life of celibacy and singleness. It is an insult to Yah to suggest that this most beautiful and deeply spiritual act is dirty or not to be spoken of with appropriate reverence.
If you are in a marriage and are withholding sexual love making or using it as a weapon or bargaining counter or whatever you are sinning grievously. You are BOTH required to actively and creatively preserve the act of covenant as a joyful and pleasing act to be celebrated regularly.
Having laid that foundation I would like now to focus on the reasons for entering into a covenant of this nature. These are set out below:
1. Woman as helper
Woman was created to be a helper "meet", that is suitable, fit for, conformed to, aligned with the man spiritually, religiously, in family, raise children, manage household, social, business, government, everything.
2. Sexual life covenant
Man and woman were created for the man to cleave, that is, to cut into the cleft of the woman thereby establishing a salt covenant and in the case of a virgin or suitable prayer with the bread and wine a blood covenant, and in the process establish a one flesh bond. A soul tie is also formed.
The fundamental design of human beings is such that the blood covenant comes into existence between a man and a virgin and cannot be broken except by an act of Grace by Yah under exceptional circumstances.
This one-flesh sexual covenant between a man and a woman is intended to be the highest spiritual entity on earth second only to the oneness with Yah that comes from believing and being filled with His Spirit.
This sexual covenant is intended for intense sexual passion, pleasure, love making (the creation of love) in a totally giving uninhibited relationship in which both partners seek to develop the art of sexual love making to its highest potential.
3. Man as covering, head, earthly provider
The man is the ultimate covering in earthly spiritual terms to his woman, her head and her earthly provider insofar as it is Yah's intention that the two engage in commerce, ministry, etc with the woman as the helper to the man.
The concept of man as covering, lightning conductor, umbrella is such that the man is responsible for the overall direction of the house and any time he takes a wrong turning he will take the punishment and she will be unharmed provided she remains in submission and under his covering.
Submission means she journeys WITH him down the wrong road praying for Yah's will to be done. If she fights with him he is likely to make bigger mistakes.
4. Build their house together – house in harmony prospers
"Whatsoever two of you agree (harmonize / symphony) on earth it will be done by your Father in heaven".
A man and woman in perfect harmony with a strong one flesh bond are a powerful force on earth and can build a sure house and prosper.
Refer to the article "Buddy can you spare a dime" for a detailed discussion of this.
5. Fellow soldier in the army of Yah
The woman is a fellow soldier in the army of Yah with her man.
She submits to her man as his second in command.
The armour of Yah does not cover their backs so spiritually they fight back to back whether in intercession, spiritual warfare, looking out for one another in their day to day lives, etc.
For this reason there WILL be many differences of focus and understanding between them. Where many might see these differences as weaknesses they are in fact strengths and, in fact, for the union to be really effective as a spiritual warfare entity on earth it is necessary that the parties ARE VERY DIFFERENT in many respects.
The woman should lift up her man to Yah, as she presses closer to Yah through her man they will BOTH be drawn closer to Yah, she should intercede for him, build him up, lift him up, walk together, fight the battles of the kingdom together, no matter how hard.
As fellow soldier the woman submits to her man as an act of an iron military will that CHOOSES to submit.
This needs a strong woman.
6. Bear and raise children
A fundamental part of this covenant union, to raise up off-spring but NOT the only critical element as some would have it. Sex is for pleasure and building a strong one-flesh bond AS WELL AS for conceiving children.
Children continue the lineage of the man, provide support for parents in old age, give great pleasure, build on the strengths of the couple to make a difference in the world, etc.
Do NOT join yourself to an unsuitable partner and then wonder why your children turn out badly.
7. Lovers, tender, caring, avoid argument
They should be lovers, tender towards each other, caring; they should avoid argument, in this role she submits as an act of tenderness and adoration.
8. Confidante and advisor, companion and friend
Man discuss things with your woman, consult with your woman, use her as a sounding board to bounce ideas off, share innermost secrets, do things together, share life, play, travel, etc.
Footnote: It is technically possible for a man to enter into a sexual life covenant with more than one virgin, widow or truly divorced woman. This form of union, although provided for by Yah, is extremely difficult to put into practice in current society. Do NOT attempt it unless you are absolutely certain Yah is leading you in that direction and you have the full WILLING consent of your existing woman / women AND the new woman.
How serious are YOU about serving Yah and overcoming to the end?
If you are a man and single, unless you have had robust confirmation that Yah does NOT want you joined to a woman or women then you should be seeking Yah to find the right woman. There are many committed and dedicated woman who desperately want a man.
If you are a woman then Isaiah 4:1 highlights a massive problem, there are approximately between 7 and 10 more women truly committed to Yah than there are men so celibacy may well be the only option for you.
If your union does not contain ALL the above elements then I strongly urge you to course correct and make sure they are ALL present.
May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
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